A little over a week ago, I sent out a short survey to my community, hoping to find out more about everyone’s biggest dreams as well as the struggles around making them real.
Without wanting to go into all the details right now (I’ll save that for another time), here’s one thing that really stood out to me:
The vast majority of everyone who participated said that the number one thing that was stopping them from making their dreams happen was the fear of moving forward.
I totally know how this feels, because I’ve been there. Many times.
Even though I’ve taken many bold steps to change my life profoundly in the last 7 years, the truth is I’ve also spent a lot of time trapped in fear, doubting myself, changing my mind all the time, and waiting for the right moment to take action even though I knew that change was way overdue.
One of the first times this happened was when I was still working in corporate, constantly dreaming about starting my own business, feeling more than ready to quit my job so many times—but each time I wanted to do it for real, I could be sure that something would happen to stop me.
If it wasn’t the fear of losing the security of a steady paycheck or that awkward feeling in my stomach I got each time I wanted to talk to my boss, it would be something like a co-worker getting sick (so I couldn’t just “abandon” everyone) or getting a raise or bonus (so I couldn’t leave without feeling guilty).
The same thing happened a couple years later when I knew I needed to head in a new direction in my business.
Each time I wanted to free up time and space to start working on one of my heart projects, I could be sure I’d get a super tempting opportunity to make some good money working for one of my clients, or I just couldn’t say “no” because I didn’t want to let anyone down.
And so … I stayed stuck.
Perhaps, I’d feel the relief of retreating into my comfort zone for a little bit, but each time, I’d regret it quickly, and I’d be angry at myself for not acting when I knew it was time.
But finally, I had a realization that changed everything:
I understood that no matter how long I was willing to wait for better circumstances, the absolute “perfect” moment would never come. There would never be a 100% guarantee for anything. No matter how well prepared I was, there would always be things I couldn’t control. And most certainly, the fear of moving forward wasn’t getting any less.
I knew there was only one way: I had to make a decision. And I had to be willing to leap even if I had no idea how things would turn out.
And here’s what I can tell you: Each time I finally brought up that courage to go for my dreams 100%, magic happened!
Whenever I took a leap of faith, ready to leave behind everything that was keeping me encaged, ready to commit to my truth without compromise, God was there to catch me immediately:
That day I told my boss that I was quitting my job to start my own business, my employer became my first client.
When I let go of clients I no longer wanted to work for in 2010, ready to dedicate more time to my spiritual journey, I almost instantly manifested a (fun) freelance job that paid twice as much as I usually charged. (I didn’t even have to ask for it.)
When I decided to no longer wait for guys who “didn’t feel the same way about me”, God sent me my soul mate.
There are many more examples I could share with you, but here’s my point:
If there’s something big and beautiful you’ve been dreaming about, whether it be starting your own business, traveling the world, finding true love, launching that divinely inspired heart project of yours, or whatever it may be for you:
No amount of waiting is going to make it any more likely for those things to happen.
Real change happens when YOU decide it’s time. That moment you decide to no longer let fear have power over you, and that no matter how scared you are you’re going to go for your dreams anyway, that’s when all the doors of the universe open for you.
That’s when the magic happens!
Now, I’d love to hear from you: What is one big thing you’ve been dreaming about every day for a long, long time, but that you haven’t given yourself permission to go for out of fear? And: What is one first step you could take today to start making your dream a reality? Let me know in the comments below!